in the words of MT:

"You see, in the final analysis.
It is between you and God -
It is never between them and you anyway."

hope you are well.

and the dust of life. your bow analogy is brilliant.

Hi Shekhar,

Heart says that what you say about role of failure or your comfort level with failure is true. Its said about sadness also that it purifies a person as he is more able to turn his consciousness towards his innerbeing. Author Agyeya had written similar things as cover note in one of his brilliant novel" Nadi ke Dweep". Failure or feeling of not getting success to the extent what others expect from one, keeps alive the desire to create in that person and he is more creative and focus. And as nobody is going to share his failures so he is left alone and if he has courage then he will create more.
As Tagore wrote in one of his poem that when he was searching God and reached at the door, where God lives then outside of the door he became fearful that if he meets the God then his journey is finished and then what after meeting the God? So he writes I came back without knocking the door of God.
Is it not the same thing your wanderer monk friend said that God is in the journey and not at the end of journey.
As I said that heart says that this failure hypothesis is right but mind also wish to add one more thing that there should be a stage where even success cant stop the way of creativity and person is creative in both the stages whether this creativity is treated as success or failure. They both are ephemeral which cant sustain with the constant tension of a live and conscious life.
Thanks a lit for this site and your thoughts. Journey here is wonderfully creative.

I remember reading in one of your interviews recently, your thoughts on the impending (as in disaster) digital revolution. While Iam sure it is going to happen, Iam still wondering if it will change the history of cinema for the better. It will empower a lot of aspiring film makers like me. But I think it will be at too big a cost. The demystification of cinema.

Hi Shekar,
i am a software engineer working for a MNC. it just happened, i have an excellent story of a assistant director who falls in love witha muslim girl and interacts with her for a couple of weeks but he is not able to see her face.
if you find it interesting please let me know
not expecting any rewards.

regards
yashwant
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Dear Shekhar,
how did this experience make you feel?

Cinda

The battle is never between U and the world or the society, the war is always fought within the framwork of mind, the battle is between U n U. Well one U plays the role of true self and the other takes the side of the society, If the second one wins person will be stuck in the cycle of life and death or wht i call it 9 to 5 job, If the first one wins there might be some failures in the outside world but there would PEACE and FREEDOM deep inside............forever.

yes,i thought you were celebrating failure as an artefact post success. That is easy.

What I think is the nub of your being is the ability to defy what is expected and thus push against the lattice of the unknown. Opening yourself to the river of experience as it comes gushing t0 drown you, and then when you face that one epiphanic rush as you draw your head up and shake off the drops of sweat, that is what is true of your failure-success yoyo.It is a dialectic to which I am so afraid to open up to. Once you dare to, I guess, creative "good" comes your way. "deaing" with being in hollywood required you to take tha first step. BUt that moment is frightening for lesser mortals.And yet for us, that first step ties you into bonds of inertia, fear. Tell, how does one become free of it. I think your spirituality is really genuine and would be extremely good to hear of your path to your own little nuggets , experientially derived. Existence can't be defined and yet so few learn to acknowledge it.We are compulsive doers. How frightening it is to be left without TV, book, blog, and yet creativity springs from facing your discomfort, the churning inside the gut in lonely times. Danke schon!!

I was just wondering if I could meet up with you over coffee when you are in Delhi the next time around... no agenda really, aise hi.

I know you do not respond to queries, but I'd still be happy to have an email from you...

Thanks.
AM

Hi Sir,
I have started to 'discover' your site. Was roaming through your thoughts when found this wonderful piece. The role of failure in defining success. In the movie Lagan I saw for the first time an Indian director defying stereotypes and using black color of clouds to signify happiness. Black never used to be the color of happiness. Ashutosh found it or invented it. Similarly, you have discovered the role of failure in shaping success. Failure works on different paradigms. It has ceased to be the opposite of success. You have given it the world of its own. However, it is not as easy as it seems. Success has always been relational, failure is always personal. One may use period of failure to introspect oneself. It can bring you closer to yourself, but it doesnot guarantee your self discovery. Failure veiwed in terms of success can be catastrophe.
Thanks and Regards
KK

Harivanshray Bachchan once said.. "Man ka ho to acha, Man ka no ho, to bhi acha". Equanimity in failure is key to success. Even Amitabh Bachchan, in a recent interview said "There is no person on the earth who has never experienced 'mayoosi' and 'nirasha'". An experience of failure is like the fire that purifies the gold.

Acharya Aaatreya, famous Telugu movie composer said in one his memorable songs 'Agadhamavu Jalanidi lo na aanimuthyamu unnatule, Sokana Manuguna daagi Sukhamu unnadile' - Just like the pearl is hidden in the depths of the ocean, joy is buried under the waters of sorrow'. How profound!

Unless one has experienced the pangs of failure, how can he be really complete? If The Gita says that 'He who treats success and failure as the same is a Stitha Pragna (Complete Man)', then one has to be overwhelmed by both to then reflect and realise that the two impostors are the same (Rudyard Kipling's An ideal to live by)!

In Perfection
-------------

When I see it in my head
Why can't I make it through my hands?

What block still keeps falling between
My sight, and my sleight of hand?

The dam will burst one day I'm sure
And the block will go away,
But why should creation forever be
So violent,
Like your Big Bang?

Yes I agree after that gore
The music of nature more than soothed
The scar from that difficult child

But must I endure the tremendous pain
Of labour yes, but also harbour
A doubt, more paining in me?

What guarantee there is
That the work I deliver
Will be nature perfect?

Ha you laugh! Perfection for Man!
Impossible, you smirk.

It is only right, you whimper haughtily
For man to strive to be;
Perfection should exist, you say, in its job
Of existing always an attempt away!

Laugh, go on - you have all the right
Please continue laughing at me,
For I too am not silent!

I am busy mocking at you.

You are cursed with eternal imperfection
You who created the imperfect me!

Hello Sir,

Your bow analogy was wonderful. I also luckily saw one of your interviews, in which you have talked of your forth coming film -pani... it was really very impressive... i was actually touched with the fact that you put forward i.e. the people living in huts and pavements laugh more than the people living in lavish flats...I really look forward to the movie and I hope you start working on it soon and we get to see it soon..and wish you all the best for the same..

Regards,

Richa...

Hello Shekhor :) we met in the design museum.....i was working there and we paused for a moment where ever we were and had a converstion.The Alan Fletcher exhibition was on show. I lost the piece of paper you'd written this site on for a good while but look! I found it :) i didnt know where to write you a message so this is where it will be. while i'm here i'll tell you about my ideas about success and failure.

why is it that human being are concerned with this idea so much? Probably because they do not undertand that they are already successful. Isnt it amazing that the universe has no rules outsite the fundamental laws of gravity etc. We can create whatever we want! our only limitation is what we think we should or shouldnt create, usually ideas that we have borrowed from others. At the moment i still have to remind myself of this truth! i can design it how i want it to be! No earthly rules or formulas....just visualisation and knowledge of the truth! This excites me everyday!!! so there is no way we can fail because we created the situation and the universe responded...we put the thought out there, asked for it and the wish was granted, is granted! Regardless of what the wish was. Thats the extent of the freedom we have :) we are already successful because we are all creating our world everyday. The key is understanding this and taking control and spreading the news of love however we choose to do so:)

i love learning about people and how their lives. Thats my life :) i think your web site is a really good idea...putting your thought down and getting comments and feedback. i'd like to do that too.

Priscilla x

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Dear Mr. Kapur,

I am Shankar P., a writer and editor with Knowledge@Wharton, a biweekly business journal published by The Wharton School in Philadelphia. We would like to establish contact you for a story featuring your proposed $500 million fund. We would like to publish that in our Indian edition (www.ikw.in) that was launched last November.

Could you please email me at shankar.ikw@gmail.com with your contact information, including an email address to which I can send a note with details of our story plan?

I am based in New Jersey/Philadelphia and can be reached at 1-848-391-2322. Could you please pass along your phone number and a time when I could call you?

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Hi there

Yes its true what you say. I am 31 year old looking at the times that i stop being lazy and do something about my creativity and the burden to tell stories. When the times are really tough, great things come out. I guess that much of you are in, tat piece of concentrated work. I guess thats the middle way anyway, when you read on spiritual gurus they all preach dont be happy or sad, be in between. i am a film maker( of course scared to death to plunge into my dreams) once a monk persuaded me to turn to monk hood "we need young people too" i like the idea of monkhood and the dedication to it ofcourse, but even though tempted i t htought i cant get seriously into it, if i want to pursue my dreams to make films....story tellers need to suffer! they cant let go of emotions, but knowing myself i really need to discipline...
i have heard you been lazy too in your early years....can you please write something about your struggling years and of the humiliation in society to make it as an artist1

thank you
Siddhartha

I agree with you that failures does help you focus...and its nice to sit and think of your struggling days when you have eventually made it...but there are some for whom the struggle has just gone that extra mile, and the fingers keeping the arrow focussed on the bow are just a bit wobbly now...how does one be comfortable with ones failure in such a situation...I agree we all have to fall to be able to rise at some point...but what about the ones who don't rise...blame it on destiny? Is there somthing called destiny at all?! Am I a pessimist or a realist?

Ye tho nahi keh raheh aap ki...
failure lets u take a back seat and lets u recollect urself, breath to strike again with stronger force...

Its like a method of breaking free for a while n u permit failure to filter, to let u soar again, theres no other way than this, as success becomes a habit and then ur character, where can one sit in peace, in this silence/failure the stillness questions you and you question that stillness...

is there really anything called failure?I feel failure aap jaiso ke liye ek alag kisam ki victory hai, the way i feel..maybe i am wrong, difference of opinion is always there hai na?

Chalo bahut bolti hu kabhi kabhi....aapko fursat thori hogi sabko parne ko samajne ko lol, no issues aram kariye....
Take care...

Sometimes failure is an acute perception than a gross reality...it's one's heightened awareness of one's profound limitations...there are many guys who are gross failures... those guys who lack the talent,the resoluteness,the know-how usually beckons the failure, but it doesn't usually fire their creativity..instead it makes them bitter, cynical or plain insecure...but you may be at the top of the world, but u still feel inside that bottomless void called failure...this 'failure' springs up from one's awareness of limitations of the human existence in general, which can be acutely painful...such an 'internal' failure can make u very sensitive, very self-aware...ironically, this ability to be self-aware too may be one form of talent, which can make u successful or perhaps spiritual.....

Murali...

Hi Shekhar,

Amazingly quoted!!!
I'm 23 but can deeply empathise your vent....
I experienced academic failure, it came to me recently, i hated its entry, it was almost suicidal to get along wid it...i howeva sustained, Happily!!!

My religious faith came to my rescue. It showed me the glittering sparks coying around failure...it felt wonderful to be introduced to them at an age when my life had literally jus begun!!! I could find no excuse to sit back n cry, i tried to gain from this new experience by giving sumtym out to my suppressed talents...there was almost a year to go b4 my sceduled compartmental exam you see..!!!

I resorted to my hobbies which were left alienated since junior school days...!
...and thats when i found true happiness, true luxury...my life is set!!!

Today, Alhumdolillah, im working for a Software solutions (limited) company which is an aspiring MNC; though still striving the same academic boat...here i hold a post which may most likely leave good MBA guys wid a green eye!!! Graduation may come in its own time but success is not yearned for anymore, know why...I love to fall back on my days of "lost hopes"...they've given me lots, but my thirst is insatiable...I wan some more...so you know i dont strive for success...I wan some more...!!!